How to Send Flowers the Chinese Way

How to Send Flowers the Chinese Way

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I’ve only given flowers a handful of times in my entire life. And those were layups. Anniversary roses, Easter lilies, spring daffodils. Anything more complicated and there’s just too much symbolism to consider and potentially get wrong.

Flowers are especially meaningful in Chinese culture, adding an additional layer of complexity as you’re standing in your local Chinatown florist. Various varieties and colors can convey drastically different messages, which creates a lot of pressure when you’re afraid of breaching strict cultural protocols.

In reality, giving bouquets of flowers is a relatively modern phenomenon in China. Until recent times, cut flowers were generally associated with funerals. Though sending flowers is now generally accepted practice, it remains a nice touch to send a potted plant, instead of a bouquet, if the flowers are to be displayed in the home or if you wish to convey an additional sentiment related to growth and life.

Before we go further, here are a few general flower-giving taboos to avoid.

– White flowers and yellow chrysanthemums are only used at funerals.
– A potted plant represents an incompletely cured illness to a sick person.
– Thorns and thistles represent pain and difficulty.
– Poplar flowers are easily broken and represent an unfaithful woman.

What you will find below is a simple, failsafe guide to sending flowers for the most important Chinese occasions. At the end, you’ll also find a few timeless selections that you can use to send more specific messages to a recipient.

Pomegranate Flowers

For a Wedding

Pomegranate Flowers
Pomegranate fruit is tart, but contains lots of seeds. Send pomegranate flowers to newly-married friends to express good wishes for fertility and many sons.

White and Yellow Chrysanthemums

For a Funeral

White and Yellow Chrysanthemums
If you’re ordering from a non-Chinese florist, give strict instructions that the arrangement (including any vase) contain nothing red. This is the color for happiness and prosperity, which is clearly inappropriate for this occasion and which will cause great offense. Send white chrysanthemums to the family of the deceased and a mixture of white and yellow chrysanthemums, if the arrangement is to accompany the casket.

Red Chinese Roses

For Birthdays and Happy Occasions

Red Chinese Roses
Red is the key color here, to send wishes for good fortune, wealth and a prosperous future. For birthdays, celebrations and new business launches, red Chinese roses are the easiest choice, accented with perhaps golden rod and baby’s breath.


For Lovers

For committed couples, red lilies pledge enduring love and a happy union lasting a hundred years. They’re beautiful, elegant and pure. Definitely a classic choice.


For a Father or Grandfather

Orchids are thought to posses a certain noble quality (Confucius likened them to a virtuous gentleman), making them a perfect choice to gift to a venerable old man.

Peach Flowers

For a Mother or Grandmother

Peach Flowers
Peach flowers are sacred in China, representing longevity, romance, prosperity and growth. Paired with a beautiful vase, they’re a wonderful way to express wishes for a good life to your mom.

Plum Blossoms

For Overcoming Adversity

Plum Flowers
Plum flowers blossom amidst frost and snow, giving them the long-admired qualities of firmness and solidity. Send plum flowers when you want to recognize inspiring courage or perseverance.


For Flawless Elegance

Peonies are considered the very living symbol of nobility, a flower associated with wealth and honor, feminine beauty, innocence and charm. Send peonies when you wish to express great admiration or to recognize meaningful artistic or creative achievements.


For Great Teamwork

Lotus Flowers
The word for lotus is a homonym for harmony, and these flowers represent pure hearts and auspicious events. Send lotus flowers after great collaborative achievements or to express wishes for unity and teamwork in the future.

Your turn! Do you have any advice for sending flowers and getting the symbolism right? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section below!

HT: Photo by Fusion Living.

4 Responses

  1. Nina lymburn

    I have a Chinese friend who is terminally ill and I want to take flowers to him. Could you please help. I don’t want to send the wrong type and colours. Thank you.

    • Wes Radez

      Hi Nina, thanks for your question and sorry to hear about your friend’s illness. I wouldn’t recommend taking flowers as a gift — traditionally, “cut” items like bouquets symbolize the end of a relationship and contemporary notions of flower giving can be misinterpreted in more conservative cultural settings. Instead, a more typical gift for an elderly or ill person would be something “nourishing” for the body or soul. Chicken soup from a good Chinese restaurant would be a good example. ~Wes

  2. Miranda

    My friend lost her mother a couple of months ago & I’d like to send her something as a respectful acknowledgment of her loss & to let her know I am thinking of her.
    What would be appropriate?

    • Wes Radez

      It’s a sweet thought, Miranda. I think your two options are to either recognize your friend’s mother or pay tribute to your friendship. A few branches of peach flowers (see above) in a decorative vase are a wonderful way to honor your friend’s mom and a life well lived. Alternatively, branches of plum flowers (see above) in a decorative vase symbolize courage and perseverance in the face of adversity, which may speak well to your friend. In either case, I’d suggest visiting a Chinatown flower market, as they’ll be most familiar with an appropriate way to arrange the flowers. ~Wes

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